First dating message template Free chatingsex

In theory, online dating should be easy – browse through a catalog of photos and profiles, click on who you like, send a message and boom – start picking an outfit for your first date. Now on to the hard part…Time to start messaging some women.

Let’s assume the initial hurdles standing between you and meeting the next Love of Your Life (or Your Night) online have been cleared – you’ve chosen a dating site, written an engaging profile, and selected the perfect profile picture.

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A thought-provoking, fun, playful message that stands out from the crowd of “hey, baby what’s up” and “hi” messages from all the losers who haven’t read our blog. Make it easy for her to respond by asking a question in your message.

Once you come up with a few good ones, test them out and keep the winners. And here’s where the copy/paste strategy comes into play.

And it’s surprisingly easy to come up with some good ones, if you keep two rules in mind: Get her attention with the subject line. What you ask should be broad enough to ask anyone, yet specific enough that the woman will think you actually read her profile. Use the “advanced search” function of the dating site to select a particular interest or keyword, let’s say “travel”.

The search results are a goldmine of women interested in travel.

Here’s an idea of a travel-related message you can quickly copy, paste, and send to every woman in that list:“It looks like you have a good sense of adventure, so tell me this: If someone were to offer you an all-expenses paid trip to anywhere in the world but you had to leave in the next hour, where would you go? Travel is one topic, you could also create a message built around cooking, swimming, dancing, reading – whatever subjects you have in common with your target woman.

”The topic engages her, the question is easy to answer, and thinking about it brings her to a happy place in her mind – she’ll feel emotionally connected to you in a positive way while she’s answering it. If you enjoy hitting the slopes and want to share the experience with your next girlfriend, search “skiing” and send a message like this: But make sure to keep your question hypothetical.

Don’t assume she’ll say yes to a date by asking something like “I saw you enjoy dining out. Invest fifteen minutes coming up with a list of questions, then sit back and reap the rewards.

You’ve read her profile, Googled that author she mentioned four times, and managed to tactfully point out your similarities without sounding desperate. According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, users on his site exchange about 4 million messages – a day. In his book, ‘Dataclysm: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking’, Rudder weighs in on whether a canned message actually works, or if women see through that BS in an instant.

You may get a response, you may not – and there’s a lot of reasons for a lack of responses. Maybe she’s seeing where things go with a guy who got there first. That’s roughly 166,666 messages being sent every hour – one of which was yours. Let’s push the odds of meeting someone back in your favor. In a nutshell, he said the copy/paste strategy is 25% less effective in terms of response rate, when you compare the effort you put in to the results you get back.

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